Entry #8: Communication Styles
The first interview comes from my husband. We have been together for a total of 3 years and married for 6 months. Towards the beginning of our relationship, communication completely circled and flowed through our bond. We were a long distance couple for a few months before deciding to move closer together. During those months apart, we talked every day for hours. These conversations seemed pretty endless, like we could talk forever, but they slowly started to fade. As we grew older and more serious, so did the conversations. We came to realize that the seriousness of life began to outweigh the fun we used to focus on.
My friend Abbie and I have been friends for about eight years. She is one of my longest standing friends and one of the only people I still talk to consistently from middle school and high school. We have helped each other through many life events and everyday happenings. While talking to her, she said I am a very good listener and good at validating her feelings. I find that I am able to communicate like this because it does not involve me making decisions for more people than myself. It involves an exchange of advice and having time to weigh my options before acting on them.
My third interview was with my little sister, Mikayla. She is a little more than two years younger than me, although we grew up more like twins. We shared a room our entire childhood and were often forced to match clothing to make us “cute”. Even though we were together all the time as children, we were never good at talking with each other, especially Mikayla. Our conversations mainly involve me listening, her ranting, and then the conversation ending. My sister knows me as a person who is reliable with action and not with words.
Each person holds a different significance in my life, therefore making my communication with each person very unique. It makes me want to overlap my findings. As I am good verbally with Abbie and a good listener with Mikayla, it makes me want to better that with my husband. And the fact that I am a good casual speaker with my husband, makes me want to improve my communication with my little sister. It's the small things that can allow you to reflect on life in more than one aspect with more than one person.
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Hi Alyssa. I agree with you that good communication is very important. Whether it's with your spouse, best friend, or your sibling, It's always important to be open and honest with them. I might take the Communication Styles Quiz you posted so that I can see what my communication style is. Great work.
ReplyDeleteHello, Alyssa, it's great that you're learning so much about communication in your class. I think it's interesting that you interviewed different people in your life to see how communication varies in different relationships. It's important to have good communication in any relationship, whether it's romantic or platonic. It's great that you and your husband were able to communicate so well in the beginning of your relationship, but it's understandable that the conversations changed as your relationship grew more serious. It's also great that you're able to communicate so well with your friend Abbie and that you're a good listener. Communication is key in any relationship, and it's great that you're learning so much about it.
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