Entry #4: Love Language
Recently in my communications class, we've been learning about the different types of love languages and how to communicate them with ourselves and loved ones. These love languages include words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts. We were assigned a test to take to help identify ours personally.
The love language that came from my results was physical touch. I agree with the results, but to me, it is very interesting to think about. In previous relationships, physical touch was often the last thing to be a focus of mine. I didn’t find it appealing. Things like handholding, hugs, and small touches, were not something I felt the need to receive or reciprocate. But over the course of the past few years, I have learned the importance of understanding and growing in my love language with myself and my partner.
I personally believe that love languages can change from partner to partner. In my last relationship, I was more attracted to acts of service and quality time. These were things that were greatly lacking back then. Although the communication was there, the action to change and adjust was not. As I have grown in my current relationship, I have felt a shift in what I find attractive. Now that there has been a drastic influx of acts of service and quality time, I feel that I am able to experiment in other languages.
Small tokens go a long way for me. Because my partner and I work in the same location together, professionalism is critical. As a result of it being communicated that my current love language is physical touch, it is shown through small touches of the hand, quick kisses on the cheek, and smiles from across the room. It is a reminder of his presence and awareness of my feelings.
Knowing your own love language and the love languages of those closest to you can help you communicate more effectively with one another. It helps you learn how your partner prefers to receive love and enables you to express your wants and preferences more effectively.
The Love Language® Quiz (5lovelanguages.com)
Hi Alyssa. I liked your blog post and you're right; there are many ways to express your love for someone. I remember I took the same quiz and got the result of quality time. For me, just doing something together with the people you love, even if it's something you don't like doing is the best way to show that you care. Great work.
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